A Woman Proposing?

Interesting!  I myself am old school and was taught that it is the man that must take that approach.  I myself though old school do realize that women are individuals and are not to be placed in any particular mold.  If a girl/woman feels strongly about her relationship and wants to express that sentiment by way of a proposal then by all means, she should do so.  I wonder how she would do it?  Get down on one knee, with ring in hand  and say "baby, I've been thinking; I would like to spend the rest of my life with you.. will you marry me"?  I think that gender roles are not as defined today as they were say some 40-50 years ago.  When I was growing up, girls had to wait for boys to approach them.  A girl that approached a boy was considered bold and brazen.  Girls back then had their  subtle ways of showing a boy that she was interested, the shy look with a smile, the accidental brush up against him, the letting him pick up her fallen books or pencil, looking down when he looks at her.  The mating dance of old is a lot different now. Well enough going down memory lane.  I guess if a girl/woman wants to propose she should. There was once an art to getting a proposal, perhaps elder women don't teach that anymore.

I've had eclectic experience with this subject! I've had 8 men propose, 2 men offer to install me into their ready made lives. One I worked with like yrs. before. He was like I finally got myself together. I was offended that he had this house, all the furniture, etc. just wanted to place me in there. I liked him but I thought it was a trap lol..i always wanted to work w/my man to build something together. So...later a guy told me about Steve Harvey's book stating that a serious guy wants to sow his oats and then have a place for a woman etc, etc. 2nd guy was like-you're working too hard-do you want to be my 5th mistress. I'll care for your son as my own etc. Wait you have enough money for a wife and 4 other women-yep. You'll get your own car and apt. FREE! I knew that was a trap!I'm not jealous but I gotta big ego and low, low tolerance for pain! So - no! But Thanks!
I asked 2 guys to marry me (I hope you are laughing by now!)The 1st guy kept asking me for a commitment but I knew he just wanted to tie me down while he kept on running around town,but he kept on persisting. Just wouldn't let me enjoy myself with him! I think he was just stuck on "this is how things should be", 29 times, just kept on, kept on pressing me" Do you want make this into something? Finally, I sped out to Value City on Euclid, bought the cheapest men's ring I could find, painted it with clear polish, sped over to his house.Thinking I'm about to add some clarity to this situation.So yeah,I asked him. Got him a gold key to my place and placed it in the box. Got down one 1 knee! "Oh, my G--!" he says "No,Uh,uh"...Clarity came quick! He realized he was trying to "Mind-Freak" me all along. He stopped that melodramatic mess and we got along a lot, lot better. The 2nd Guy...like air to me. I asked him to marry me-cause I made a business call to a place in Euclid and ended up speaking to his secretary in his ofc. downtown or somewhere...I sd. who's ofc. is this? again? I was calling some lady named "Debbie"? "Her line transfers; she's in a mtg?" I knew him by another name but my heart was beating so fast I knew it was him...universe...what are you doing...I'm dedicating myself to my work so I can forget him...stop playing w/ me like this...It's cruel. "Would u like to leave a msg?" yes, no, yes, no...um...no...hung up on secy. So after 1 month of crying and pondering...I called him up and asked him on his V/M. Just so I could just get it out, to be free! I know there is an "art to getting a proposal" but I don't rely on that because it speaks of manipulation and proximity. (The former while cute and endearing may actually contribute to the divorce rate. I knew my 1st husb. when I first laid eyes on him at age 13.5 and we were introduced almost 1 yr. to the day later. I always have guys asking me for this that or the other thing(the latest thing, move to S.D and start a business)But that 1 time...for once I asked for what I wanted. When I transition - I said my truth and I'm proud of it! I may decide to take the next guy up on his offer because I want to build something tangible with laughs, hugs and kisses! But even he knows about that guy, the next guy will too! I would never attempt to build a life without that truth as a foundation. To hide it would be like "building a life on sinking sand". I still WAKE UP crying about this person, they are like air to me! Universe, how could it be that serious, lol, it was 1 six hr. conversation and 1 kiss. (Sleeping should be a refuge). Just like w/my father-I'm not a priority in his life. Even if I was-I resent loving someone that much. Bikram Yoga (104 degrees and being twisted up like a pretzel)seemed to help! I wonder if a cord-cutting would help-probably will find out. Either that or do a Forest-Gump-just keep running until...lol So, that's my varied and sundry experience with proposals. Marriage is another story!